Meeting

Tomorrow and Friday Russian and a US official have a meeting to discuss adoptions. This has been on my mind and can bet many others are thinking about these days. It seems things for single women who are adopting are becoming very tough. I pray that we are still able to!! I hope clear heads prevail so the many children have a shot at a family.


Consult not your fears but your hopes and dreams. Think not about your frustrations, but about your unfulfilled potential. Concern yourself not with what you tried and failed in, but with what is still possible for you to do.
~Pope John XXIII

Hope is the thing with feathers that perches in the soul, and sings the tunes without the words and never stops at all.
~Emily Dickinson

If it were not for hopes, the heart would break.
~Thomas Fuller

The future depends on what we do in the present.
~ Mahatma Gandhi

If we would see the color of our future, we must look for it in our present; if we would gaze on the star of our destiny, we must look for it in our hearts.
~Canon Farrar

Life can be a challenge. Yet if we view those challenges as stepping stones to where we want to go, they actually contribute to our growth.

Possible Suspension?

It has been in the news for a couple week's now. A mother sent her Russian born adopted son back to Russia...by himself...saying she no longer wished to parent this child, that he had psychological issues and she was lied to by the orphanage. I have been following along closely but could not find the words to blog about it until now. It really breaks my heart. No one knows what it was like for her, but I am NO WAY condoning what she did. She made a HORRIBLE choice!!! I wouldn't let my 7 year even go to the end of the block by himself (it's out of my sight) yet alone putting him on a plane to Russia BY HIMSELF!!! It makes me soooo mad that she did this. Russia wants to now possibly suspend adoptions to the US. It would be very sad if this was to happen. Many, many children have found loving families here in the US...just read some Russian adoption blogs!!! Yes, sometimes the children have had a harder time transitioning, but transitions are usually hard for any child, let alone a child that has been institutionalized. It just breaks my heart!!!


I have thinking about adoption and adoption from Russia in particular for a loooonnng time now. I try to read everything I can, from books to blogs, and everything in between! Not only do I read about the adoption process in general, I also try to find out as much as I can about Russia and its history. I joined FRUA (Friends for Russian and Ukrainian Adoptions) to stay updated and find out as much as I can. Unfortunately, the chapter in my state doesn't seem to be very active. I try and stay in contact with families who have adopted or are in the process now. I've looked into many agencies. One of the things that I look at is the support the agency offers..pre and post adoption. I guess what I'm getting at is, did this women make a snap decision on adopting? We may never know. These are living, breathing children here and parents need to be prepared and not get caught up in just the "idea." I'm not saying all prospective parents make snap decisions though. I personally don't think disruption is the answer, but in some cases, I believe that it could benefit the child and family. Sometimes, they may just not "click." There are steps to take and this women should have done this as a last alternative instead of putting this child on a plane.

I had my 24th birthday recently, and that means I'm that much closer to starting. I hope that the US officials and Russia can come to an agreement. It would benefit most importantly, all the kids needing families! My prayers and thoughts go out to the families(and children) who are in an adoption "limbo" right now.