Possible Suspension?

It has been in the news for a couple week's now. A mother sent her Russian born adopted son back to Russia...by himself...saying she no longer wished to parent this child, that he had psychological issues and she was lied to by the orphanage. I have been following along closely but could not find the words to blog about it until now. It really breaks my heart. No one knows what it was like for her, but I am NO WAY condoning what she did. She made a HORRIBLE choice!!! I wouldn't let my 7 year even go to the end of the block by himself (it's out of my sight) yet alone putting him on a plane to Russia BY HIMSELF!!! It makes me soooo mad that she did this. Russia wants to now possibly suspend adoptions to the US. It would be very sad if this was to happen. Many, many children have found loving families here in the US...just read some Russian adoption blogs!!! Yes, sometimes the children have had a harder time transitioning, but transitions are usually hard for any child, let alone a child that has been institutionalized. It just breaks my heart!!!


I have thinking about adoption and adoption from Russia in particular for a loooonnng time now. I try to read everything I can, from books to blogs, and everything in between! Not only do I read about the adoption process in general, I also try to find out as much as I can about Russia and its history. I joined FRUA (Friends for Russian and Ukrainian Adoptions) to stay updated and find out as much as I can. Unfortunately, the chapter in my state doesn't seem to be very active. I try and stay in contact with families who have adopted or are in the process now. I've looked into many agencies. One of the things that I look at is the support the agency offers..pre and post adoption. I guess what I'm getting at is, did this women make a snap decision on adopting? We may never know. These are living, breathing children here and parents need to be prepared and not get caught up in just the "idea." I'm not saying all prospective parents make snap decisions though. I personally don't think disruption is the answer, but in some cases, I believe that it could benefit the child and family. Sometimes, they may just not "click." There are steps to take and this women should have done this as a last alternative instead of putting this child on a plane.

I had my 24th birthday recently, and that means I'm that much closer to starting. I hope that the US officials and Russia can come to an agreement. It would benefit most importantly, all the kids needing families! My prayers and thoughts go out to the families(and children) who are in an adoption "limbo" right now.